Cat's Dislike Me: Signs and Possible Reasons

Alright, let's delve into this topic today. We'll explore why cats might not like us and what we can do to win their affection.

Why do cats not like us?

At the core, cats don't actually experience emotions like "liking" or "disliking." They approach you when they feel secure, which prompts them to display affectionate behaviors and relaxed postures.

Conversely, cats withdraw when they feel threatened, leading to a state of tension. This can manifest in behaviors such as hiding, biting, scratching, running away, avoiding petting, or not wanting to be held.

It's important to recognize that cats are solitary creatures with a high need for space. Living in a confined space, such as a house, can already be stressful for them. Sharing this space with humans can exacerbate their stress, especially if we engage in behaviors that make them feel unsafe. The phrase "forceful handling leads to disaster" sums this up well.

Here are several reasons why cats might not like you:

01. Forceful Interaction

This includes forcibly picking up a cat; pulling a cat out from under furniture; holding a cat tightly without allowing it to escape; or startling a cat while it's resting.

02. Punishment

Such as shouting loudly; locking a cat in a cage for extended periods; or hitting it.

03. Excessive Stressors

Moving homes; having frequent visitors; introducing a new cat to the household; or frequently taking the cat to unfamiliar environments.

Cats that consistently keep their distance, fail to approach you proactively, hide under furniture, and are reluctant to interact with humans, showing signs of tension, fear, or even aggression like biting and scratching, are all indicators that they might not like you.

So, how can you win a cat's affection?

Firstly, keep in mind that the more interaction a kitten has with humans between 24 months of age, the less likely it will be afraid of people as an adult. Additionally:

01. Be Prepared to Care for Your Cat

Ensure you have the essentials: cat food, litter, and water. Provide hiding spots, climbing areas, scratching posts, and consider purchasing cat toys to increase interaction. Avoid frequently moving items around the home.

02. Patience and Technique

Avoid forcing interaction with your cat. Wait until it's comfortable with its environment, and try to get its attention with a gentle touch, but don't stare at it constantly as this can be stressful for cats.

Let your cat get accustomed to your scent, as cats confirm their familiarity by nosetonose contact. Your fingers can be seen as an extension of their own noses. Once your cat is familiar with your scent, you can attempt to hold it, but be careful not to hold on too tightly when it tries to escape.

Increase the frequency of interactions. Engage in play sessions with cat toys and offer treats and canned food as rewards to build trust. This will help your cat feel more at ease and develop a stronger bond with you.